Real Talk About Grief,
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On Supporting Grievers · June 9, 2026

How to Help Someone After a Death When You Feel Helpless

If someone you love just lost their person and you have no idea what to do, this is the guide.

The helplessness is normal. The freezing is normal. The not knowing what to do is normal. What is not normal, and what causes the most damage, is what most people do with that helplessness.

grief · June 1, 2026

I Sold My Wedding Ring

This is my 3rd widowversary. The 3rd year I am walking this earth without my person. I sold my wedding ring to fund a trip I will remember for a lifetime.

On Desire & Disconnection · May 26, 2026

You Don't Have a Libido Problem. You Have a Disconnection Problem.

If your sex drive feels gone, you are not broken. Your libido is responsive, not spontaneous.

Your libido is not broken. It is not gone. It is a feedback loop that has been starved, and it is sitting there waiting for you to feed it again.

On Moving Forward After Loss · May 19, 2026

Why Moving Forward Feels Like Betrayal When You're Grieving

When you start to feel anything other than sad after losing your spouse, it can feel like a betrayal. It isn't. Here's what's actually happening.

There is a moment in widowhood that almost nobody warns you about. It is the moment you catch yourself laughing. Or wanting to wear something that makes you feel beautiful.

On Identity Loss After Grief · May 12, 2026

Identity Loss After Death of a Spouse: The Grief Nobody Warned You About

You did not just lose your person. You lost the version of yourself you were with them.

The worst part is the moment, somewhere around month four or month nine or — for some people — year two, when you look in the mirror and realize you do not know who is looking back at you.

Grief & Language · May 5, 2026

He Is Not Your Ex

Why language matters when someone loses a spouse or partner

The word "ex" carries weight. It implies choice. It implies an ending that both people walked toward — or at least walked away from. But when someone dies, there is no walking away.

Grief & Loss · April 28, 2026

Day 47: When the World Goes Back to Normal and You Don't

Six weeks after my husband died, the meals had stopped and so had the grace period.

I cannot tell you what I did on day 47. That's not a literary choice. That is the actual answer. I cannot tell you what I did, where I went, what I said to anyone, what I ate, whether I ate.